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[brociopath]

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Re: Day 245, Morning

[brociopath]

"What she has"?

Re: Day 245, Morning

[sharksong]

A life where she isn't labeled a murderer by Aather.

Re: Day 245, Morning

[brociopath]

Why do you think she cares about that...? I wouldn't care about that. Is that her priority, or yours...? Has she expressed wanting that?

[genuinely confused]

Re: Day 245, Morning

[sharksong]

She hasn't, but she'll be upset about it if she happens. She wants peace.

Re: Day 245, Morning

[brociopath]

Okay, I think I see the conflict...

Re: Day 245, Morning

[sharksong]

Do you?

Re: Day 245, Morning

[brociopath]

Well, that's the part where you decided for her, isn't it?

I don't think it's out of line for you to do so, but if you're deciding what should happen to get results that she hasn't expressed wanting... I mean, you know? I want a life where I don't have to kill, but that doesn't mean I'd be happy if I were forced to put my priorities aside for someone else.

Re: Day 245, Morning

[sharksong]

So I should let her make choices that are going to get her the exact opposite thing she wants?

Re: Day 245, Morning

[brociopath]

Why is it 'let'? What if she has two wants that conflict with each other?

Re: Day 245, Morning

[sharksong]

Then she needs to go with the one that will make her less miserable.

Re: Day 245, Morning

[brociopath]

And you think it's that one, but what if she thinks it's the other one? If her entire life has been spent under Vincent and under people like Vincent and under the fear of vanishing to Zwei, is turning the other cheek something that will make her less miserable?

I'm not saying she should do it, and I'm not saying you should support her doing it, but -- have you ever been a tool?

Re: Day 245, Morning

[sharksong]

I'm not telling her to turn the other cheek. I want her to not murder someone. There are other things that can be done if she'd stop for long enough to let us help her think.

Re: Day 245, Morning

[brociopath]

Murdering someone is a really small step for someone like her.

Re: Day 245, Morning

[sharksong]

A step that won't accomplish anything and will only make more trouble for her.

Re: Day 245, Morning

[brociopath]

I'm not debating whether or not it's a good idea here -- like I said, there's a reason I just didn't do it myself -- but you can't treat it as something which is a bigger deal to her than it is and expect her to feel like you understand her priorities...?

Re: Day 245, Morning

[sharksong]

So what am I supposed to do?

Re: Day 245, Morning

[brociopath]

...I don't know... but if you don't want to overwrite her you're going to need to understand where she's coming from...

Re: Day 245, Morning

[sharksong]

She won't even talk to me so that I can now.

Re: Day 245, Morning

[brociopath]

Won't how? Is she actively avoiding you?

Re: Day 245, Morning

[sharksong]

. . . We're avoiding each other.

Re: Day 245, Morning

[brociopath]

So you won't talk to her either...?

Re: Day 245, Morning

[sharksong]

I haven't known what to say . . .

Re: Day 245, Morning

[brociopath]

Okay, the way I see it -- and I mean, get other opinions, I'm not known for my emotional astuteness -- you have two choices.

Re: Day 245, Morning

[sharksong]

What are they?

Re: Day 245, Morning

[brociopath]

The first option is to let things be. You've had your say, you've found an incompatibility, you're having trouble talking to her. You don't have to continue if you don't want to.